Some tweets reflecting on the sociological dimensions of baptism for pastors revisiting their practice of it; that might also function as responses to the understandable question from a non-Christian:
"Baptism seems very silly and weird and religious. Why would someone do that?"
This is obvious once I point it out but: Baptism (infant, believer's, or the similar practice of confirmation) is much less of a decisive public choice if a lot of other people are doing it too. If you're the only one among your peers, it is much more awkward / courageous.
Some of the audience at a baptism secretly cringes because the teen has no idea what it will mean to live as a Christian or the couple has no idea what it will mean to raise their child as a Christian. But baptism indicates they have the faith of a mustard seed, which is enough.
The conscientious person, the sober person is hesitant about baptism. "Can I make this commitment? Should I not do more research?" But baptism is not having all your ducks in a row. It's about saying: "I know I don't want that old way of life, I want this new way. Let's do this."
Baptism is like registering for a marathon or going to an AA meeting or buying a house or accepting that college admission or joining the military or getting engaged. “I know enough. I don't know all that this means but let’s do this. I’m in. I want to try this. Let's go.”
This is how Christians should respond to a baptism. "Woo-hoo! Good for you! We don’t expect that you know everything! Though we too are just fellow travelers, we'll try to support you with love and resources!”
Baptism is a tiny bit embarrassing because normally people don't see you wet. With umbrellas, we are rarely soaked. Most people only swim with family or other swimmers. So getting dunked is slightly humorous. Baby's eyes widen when they get wet. The laughter is socially bonding.
I asked eight students in my worship class whether they were the kind of person who plans and hosts parties and celebrations (Super Bowl, Halloween, birthday, anniversary, graduation, Academy Awards, hockey playoffs) and family gatherings (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter).
Or were they more of a party pooper or kill joy or wet blanket.
All eight men said they were not much of a planner. The one woman present said she was more of a party-planner.
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"But," I asked, "what about Sunday morning church worship services, baptisms, the Lord's Supper, weddings, and funerals? Do you think those are valuable? Are you interested in planning those and getting people together for those?"
"Oh, yes," they said, "*those* are important!"
The question is how those other human celebratory gatherings relate to the explicitly Christian gatherings. Is it concerning that a seminary student sees the value in the latter but not so much in the former?
It seems to me, after a year more isolated from big gatherings because of the pandemic, that people are asking about both secular and Christian events: "Why should we gather together for events and celebrations? Did we really miss them?"
These face-to-face gatherings in groups jostle us out of our logical, self-centered, routine lives and inject some sort of unexpected conversations, interactions, and insights. They are messy emotionally and mess up the house and kitchen too but we are enriched emotionally.
The logical "Spock" person says: "Why get together to eat? I have food to eat at home."
Often the social person is not able to articulate why we should gather and gives poor explanations like "We should" or "We were invited" or "It's tradition."
There is a better explanation but it is still somewhat mysterious. Human beings are social animals. We don't function at our best alone. Solitary confinement is among the worst punishments.
In the Bible, Adam was lonely by himself until Eve was created. The Jewish people gathered in Jerusalem a few times year for festivals and feasts. The stories about Jesus have to do with his interactions with strangers and crowds and his time at meals with his 12 or so disciples.
And numerous studies show that church attendance correlates with happiness and health.
Thread on some social science literature on religiosity (church attendance, prayer, importance of faith) correlating with positive outcomes.
So, yes, Hebrews 10:25 says Christians should "not [be] giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing." But that is not because "it's tradition" but because it is good for us. It's healthy. And the gatherings can "spur one another on toward love and good deeds."
I grant that some gatherings are more important than others.
– "Dudes, let's go to the bar and get hammered!"
– "Come to my baby's gender reveal party!"
BUT, I still think the convener, the gatherer, the host, the partier is on the right track. It is good for people to gather.
It has dawned on me lately that according to some "church leadership" experts, the #1 most important thing for a leader, is to have a great physical appearance. This is contrary to the message of the Bible. It is heresy. It is a toxic lie.
This is described as being "fit" or "healthy" but it becomes clear how much time and money is spent on gyms, personal trainers, food, clothes, watches, jewelry, makeup, and cars.
It should not need to be said for anyone who has read the Bible, but people with an obsession with outward appearance (1 Sam 16:7, 1 Tim 2:9), physical training (4:8), clothes (Matt 6:25), money (19:24), or asceticism with regard to food (Rom 14:20), are fools who destroy others.
The person fixated on their appearance cannot live in proximity to the poor. And they have no time for hospitality, for reading, or for serving others. Eating and drinking with others challenges their diet discipline and is awkward so they eventually stop eating with others.
Read the Bible and see if the emphasis is on being physically fit and disciplined or whether the Messiah "had no beauty to attract us to him" (Isa 53:2), Jesus was called a glutton (Matt 11:19; Luke 7:34), and Paul said to accept food when it is offered to you (1 Cor 10:25-27).
Here is a similar thread by me from January:
On why dieting and exercise and trying to look good and be fit and thin may not have as much to do with excellence as having a paunch, serving others, taking walks, and eating meals with people.